How to stop fearing the unknown, take action, and step into your purpose.

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That feeling of staying in and being safe became so familiar. Even later, when I returned to public school and was forced out of my comfort zone, I emotionally retreated to protect myself. But deep down, I knew that if I wanted to grow and move forward, I’d have to get uncomfortable at some point—I couldn’t just hide forever. Or could I? It definitely was more appealing to me than getting uncomfortable.

There were two sides of me: one that wanted to stay hidden, and another that pushed me out of my shell when I hit a breaking point. For example, before moving to Texas in 2010, I spent months tirelessly looking for a job. I had no car to job hunt independently, so I had to rely on my family to take me to interviews, which wasn’t always possible. So much felt out of my control because I was young and just starting out.

When I finally moved to Texas for a job, everything felt uncertain. My mind didn’t like it, and my body reacted with physical symptoms—rashes, pain, headaches. It was similar to when we lost my childhood home and moved to a new area; life became stressful, hard, and sad.

Then, during the COVID lockdowns in 2020, I freaked out. By that point, I’d adjusted to a new flow of life—I was working, exercising, planning yoga teacher training, and going to school. But suddenly, I was sent back home, just like in kindergarten. This time, my body responded with chronic back pain.

More recently, when I moved from my apartment in Dallas to a new home in Rhome, Texas, I had the same reaction. I left my job and scrambled to find work in a new area. I believe my mind kept unconsciously replaying the time we lost our home and moved to a bad area when I was 12, as if it were happening all over again.